Being able to identify the limits and scope of our personality will help us to overcome any scenario in life.
"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." Romans 12:2
Whenever we hear about "toxic people" who may be close to us, we begin to wonder what this classification refers to and if we know anyone who may need help to heal.
On several occasions we will be able to meet people and discover different personalities that we may like better or simply not be compatible. We know well the type of people we may like or fit in with. But we also differentiate in our mind and with clarity those that we want to put aside or naturally not cross our path.
"And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins." Mark 11:25
As human beings, a basic characteristic is to socialize and also to be able to please in our environment. For this reason is that such exchange generates a potential state of well-being and acceptance, achieving to generate an internal "calm".
We understand then that as good Christians we have to be able to accept both those people who please us and those who do not fit our personality.
In the differences of people we find the variety and diversity of messages that God has for us. We cannot judge as "toxic" this human being who openly vocifies negative things about someone or simply speaks ill of us or manipulates us with his rhetoric.
It is clear that we have a very precise task when we listen to this person and identify his behavior: we must forgive him and show him the way to the Lord.
"You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you." John 15:16
It is not easy to identify a person's personality. We can try to know someone for years and we would never finish digging into their inner self to identify them 100%.
Nor can we be evaluating each person we meet initially because we will never be able to internalize ourselves since when we approach a being for the first time, we will only be seeing superficial notions of their personality.
Above all, we can prioritize and understand that those people who unnecessarily carry problems, habits and negative attitudes within themselves and in their hearts, will probably be the most exhausted and in need of transformation. We will be able to see that they are seeking to unburden themselves to us but that deep down what they are requiring is help from our Heavenly Father.
"And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work." 2 Corinthians 9:8
From the innermost corner of their soul, these people who bluntly express their ideas or prejudice toward others must be able to understand that the Holy Spirit is not being able to heal their wounds.
They must experience and allow the divine word of our Father to give them the power to eradicate their bitterness, to be able to break with their pessimistic vision, to unlock their role as victims and above all to give them an awareness of Faith.
Such awareness will open the way to the Holy Spirit and the healing of their hearts. They are crying out to us to help them and as brothers and sisters of the Faith we cannot stigmatize them and turn them away from our path. It is what God wants us to do to help them.
It is a clear message and a sign that we must be able to guide them on the divine path.